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Head Tips. A Clonezone Guide to Giving a Blowjob.

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Blowjobs are considered both sex and foreplay, dependent on who’s doing the magic act. I’m struggling to remember all the nicknames for oral, other than when I was in school we called it ‘backing a shine’ which I still don’t understand or find attractive. Here’s a few tips that have been picked up over the years.

We are discussing standard blowjob techniques for a partner you TRUST and can do without using a condom. Communicate your sexual health as clearly as you communicate what you’re into. 

Face fucking via Tumblr

Bel Ami Face fucking via Tumblr

  • Enjoy it. An ex once told me the reason he enjoyed my blowjobs because -I- enjoyed it. Get yourself in the mood by perhaps watching an R18 film, or looking at dirty pictures of him prior to seeing him. Don’t masturbate before you see him. Let it build up.
  • Sensitivity. Begin by focusing on the sensitive parts of the penis. This is slightly different for guys who are cut and guys who have their foreskin. The frenulum (at the back of the head) is particularly sensitive, so before jumping in with your entire mouth – tease this with your tongue. Use a wet tongue to ‘wake up’ the head. Remember you’ll need to do these stronger for guys who are cut, as their sensitivity isn’t always as strong as uncut. Repeat these before wrapping your mouth around it.
  • You are not a porn star. Blow jobs and deepthroating in porn films is all about the aesthetic to the viewer, not necessarily about the pleasure. You are focusing on pleasing him and enjoying the experience. It’s not all about deep-throat as lots of guys don’t enjoy this and find it quite uncomfortable.
  • TEETH. Retract your teeth! PLEASE do your best to avoid grinding your teeth up and down his shaft and ESPECIALLY not his head. Unless he’s into that. The best way to avoid this is with practise. Practise widening your jaw and retracting your teeth on a banana or on a dildo, the thicker the better. Practice makes perfect!

    Lucky guy via Tumblr

    Lucky guy via Tumblr

  • Sucking? You don’t actually NEED to always ‘suck’ a dick. Suction can make a penis very sensitive and this isn’t for everyone. Find out beforehand if this is what he likes, or ask during (not with it in your mouth, as he wont understand you). If he does, build up the suction – don’t start off too strong. Watch his face for reactions to the suction you’re giving.
  • ASSHOLE. Once you’ve finished ‘waking’ him up at the sensitive spots, you want to now masturbate him with your mouth. Use a combination of your spit, the warmth of your mouth, your lips and tongue to create an ‘asshole’ that pays attention to every inch you have in your mouth. Find out if he likes the hand involved or not, some guys do and some guys don’t. Never be afraid to ask.
  • Dry mouth? If you’re giving head after a good few hours “out on the tiles” and your mouth is getting dehydrated, we have a tip for you – GAG. Take his dick to the back of your throat until you gag. When you gag your body pushes up spit that you can use during head. Hey presto! It’s wet again.
  • BALLS. Find out if he likes attention to his balls. The guy I’m dating right now LOVES it. Pull on the balls, so they are being pulled away from the body. This lifts his dick up slightly and actually helps to make him harder, meaning he will enjoy it more. DON’T pop the balls between your fingers, unless he expressly asks for it. Put them in your mouth and treat them like an unboiled egg – they are very delicate. Keep the action going on his dick when you’re focused on the balls. Do this by getting spit in your hand and masturbating him.

    Moves like this are all about the aesthetic. via Tumblr

    Moves like this are all about the aesthetic. via Tumblr

  • Deepthroat? If he wants deep-throat, first of all – make sure he deserves it. You don’t just hand DT out. When he has, you want to make sure your throat and neck are straight. Deep throat is a lot easier if he is lying back and you’re over the top of his penis. This way you can guide the penis down your throat. Sometimes you have to give it some force and it ‘pops’ down. Take lots of breaths and be prepared to gag or control your gag. Practise deepthroating on a banana or dildo, also. Praise really does make perfect.
  • INCH it. Take the blowjob an inch at a time. You don’t have to jump to the base of his penis. Tease him by gradually making your way down his shaft. This technique is great if he’s not fully erect when you begin, as the gradual pleasure will hopefully.wake both his mind and his penis up.
  • Perenium play. When you’re fully hard, you’ll also feel that your perineum is tougher and feels more sensitive. This is a GREAT area to play with when giving head. If you roll two fingers round into a mini fist and rub this up-and-down whilst giving head, you create an area of repetition that imitates sex and gives him the sensation that the entire section of his body is being pleasured (plus its fun).
  • Rimming? Mix it up and get involved with his butt. Whilst keeping hold of his dick and balls, move yourself down to his butt and rim him. Use the same pulsing techniques you use with his penis in your mouth. Once its wet, perhaps focus a finger gently on the outside of the hole as you play with his penis.

    Fun times via GifFactory

    Fun times via GifFactory

Now let’s talk the orgasm. This is the conclusion of all of your hard work, so make sure not to ruin it all. When he’s about to orgasm, try to avoid rubbing your hands on his head as this will become super-sensitive. Try to reduce the amount of suction in your mouth, make sure your teeth are retracted and use your hand at the base of your penis to wank him – with your fingers rubbing the perineum. Whether you swallow or not is up to you, don’t let anyone make this decision but you. When he is cumming, rub his perineum with the motion that he is cumming too – up and down. This will bring his orgasm from the base of his penis to the tip whilst he ejaculates. You’ll see the reaction on his face. It’s fun.

Your jaw might ache, you are probably craving a slice of pizza and your eyes might have watered a little too much… but it was worth it to see his big stupid face smiling, wasn’t it?

For more play techniques, keep an eye on the Clonezone blog. If you have any questions about oral sex, email me at [email protected] or call our freephone line on 0800 783 0953.

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1 Comment

  1. tom

    December 20, 2015 at 9:17 am

    Thanks for all the useful information

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